May 202011
 

I’d steeled myself to take the next step in my salvo against the ones who’d plagiarized my chocolate article, especially as I hadn’t received an email of apology or compliance. I went to the page and…

Greener Families Page for Chocolate Article Taken Down Cropped 20 May 2011

Well, isn’t that a surprise! First Squidoo does the right thing and restores my deleted article and now Greener Families does the right thing and deletes their illegal copy of it.

Two lessons I’ve learnt:

1. Don’t give up when you see injustice done: Write! Write the transgressors, use civil language, include sentences that tell them you can prove your claim, and copy legal language from websites who’ve gone through the same steps as you.

2. People in the wrong don’t apologise, don’t acknowledge they did wrong, and don’t let you know when they’ve rectified the situation. With people like Squidoo or Greener Families, it doesn’t matter really, other than it’s annoying, because I don’t have a personal relationship with them. But when it happens in a personal relationship, that relationship is doomed to superficiality at best and will likely fade away. For when the transgressor fails to admit wrong, apologise, and repent (change their mind, way of doing things), then the trangressed is likely to hold them at harm’s length even if s/he shows a smiling face to the transgressor. Don’t fool yourself. Being a coward and not apologising (in the hopes it’ll all go away and why can’t we all make nice) isn’t going to fix anything and will ruin what relationship you have left.

Now I can get back to my regularly scheduled programming. Yay!

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  •  I’m glad it worked out! It’s always great when simply contacting someone and politely explaining the problem leads to a quick resolution. I completely agree with point 1. It has been my experience that people in the wrong do sometimes apologize, so unfortunately I have to negate your universal proposition in point 2. 😉 But yes, sometimes people don’t apologize, and then you have you to decide where to go from there.

  • Thanks! It’s such a relief!

    I’d like to meet those people. 😉 But seriously, I agree, a few do
    apologise, but in my experience, it’s very very few. Sometimes I wonder if
    it’s because these days the emphasis is on forgiveness not on apology, as if
    apology doesn’t matter and can be skipped, as if the transgressed should
    just *know* the transgressor regrets the words or actions, as if we’re all
    psychic or should just fuggedaboutit. In personal relationships, deciding
    what to do when people don’t apologise is hard and often depends on the kind
    of relationship you have with them: acquaintanceship, work relationship,
    friendship, close friend, relative and how close the relative is. Oprah
    should’ve done a show on that! 🙂